How to create adult love relationships
This training is an invitation to fully reconnect with your life energy and establish true and deep relationships.
Our way to relate to the world, to oneself and to life is mainly influenced by:
- the relationship with our parents and the transgenerational traumas in our family system. (These issues are addressed in the Family constellation basic training).
- the attachment strategies developed in the relationship with our caregivers during childhood.
- the traumatic events our body and soul have been subjected to in the course of our life.
This training integrates two topics: the understanding of our attachment strategy and the healing of trauma wounds.
The origin of our relationship’s dynamics can be traced back to our childhood.
Our attachment pattern influences our way of relating as grownups; it was our way of relating to our caregivers during childhood.They had the task of supporting our development processes. They were supposed to teach us how to regulate our emotions, how to deal with fears, how to develop empathy, how to trust and how to satisfy our needs.
The way we related to them has a deep effect on how we relate as grownups and how we deal with our shadow parts. There are different attachment patterns: at one end there is secure attachment (ground for confidence in life and trust in other people). At the other end we find insecure attachment (a possible cause of fear, dissociation and mistrust). In between we find a series of nuances.
Understanding Attachment Strategies
In this training we will discover and explore the strategy we developed in the first years of our life to ensure attention and love from our caregivers (the figure who took care of our survival).
By developing this strategy we also developed a certain personality, a kind of “mask” which has distanced us from our spontaneity.
Such strategy is unconsciously adopted and perpetuated in adult life. It often prevents HEALTHY ADULT to ADULT RELATIONSHIPS with partners, at work, in friendship and in life in general.
The role of trauma in the “darkening “of the Being
The work on attachment patterns goes hand in hand with the work on the effects of traumatic events.Trauma drives the mind to create alternative survival strategies. It results in repetitive and limiting behaviour patterns. Such mechanical patterns distance us from the full expression of ourselves and limit our potential for deep and healthy relationships.
In this training
We will learn how trauma impacts on our nervous system. We will use specific exercises to release blocks and tensions and relax the nervous system, thus restoring our ability to self-regulate in a healthy and natural way. All this, plus individual work with attachment and trauma constellations, will help us to restore the integrity of the Self. We will explore and discuss the theoretical aspects of attachment and trauma strategies, and we will learn how trauma and attachment constellations work. There will be guided meditations, relaxation time, sharing and celebration.
To set the Spirit free
Under each spiritual wound, whatever the origin, is encapsulated an enormous amount of healthy life energy. Re-circulated it will allow the mind to calm down thus making clarity and TRUE spiritual strength available again. Freeing the spirit means getting out of the personality’s strategies. It means bringing us back to a natural state of expansion, freedom and reconnection.
1st module | 3-8 lJuly 2020
2nd module | 10-15 november 2020
The training is open to any spiritual seeker having a basic knowledge and practice of family constellations. All participants in the 2019’s Family Constellation Basic Training or previous editions with Siddho and Anurag, are eligible. Others having the same background, but coming from different schools , can access the training after interview with the teachers.